In my ministry of teaching (50 years) and counseling nationwide (25 years), people contact me that are hurting emotionally, spiritually and relationally because of current or past painful events in their lives. This heartfelt brokenness is the result of grief issues, sexual abuse, abandonment, divorce, porn addiction, anxiety, depression, adoption, verbal/emotional abuse, etc.
Why do bad things happen to innocent or good people? Sinful conduct comes from an unholy heart. Our words and actions reveal our hearts. What comes out of our heart defiles us. People who speak evil will do evil. Critical people speak critical words to others – this is especially damaging to children. Sin entered the heart of man from the choice to sin against God in the Garden of Eden.
If a person fills their eye-gate and ear-gate with unholy content, their heart, words, and actions will be unholy. This un-holiness bleeds into every relationship beginning with God. This is why God commanded us to love Him with our whole heart, soul, mind and strength. God said, “Be holy for I AM holy!” We are to purify ourselves even as He is pure. The Holy Ghost does not force us to be holy. Our words and conduct are by our own choice.
If you are in a marriage that has continual conflict, each person must search his/her own heart. Don’t blame your partner. Ask yourself, “God, are my actions holy? Is my heart clean before you? Am I setting evil, wicked, or worthless things before my eyes?” You must take ownership of your own conduct.
A person who is a porn user is filling his/her heart with the lust of the eye and flesh. This creates a tortured soul because of the broken relationship with God. Harmful anger and friction will flow to others because of this unholy heart. I counsel men/women for porn addiction recovery – 25 years experience. Will be producing soon a seminar DVD on “Porn Addiction: Causes, Damages, Recovery God’s Way.”
My book: God’s Design for Marriage (soft cover on website or eBook: amazon.com), addresses holy living. A holy heart must be in total surrender to God. Put off sin and put on a holy heart through God’s Word and Spirit! This book on marriage was written from the Marriage Seminars that I have been teaching for churches for many years.
Carol Clemans provides nationwide teaching for churches plus counseling by phone/Skype (636) 448-0121.Go to: www.carolclemans.org – read ‘about ministry’ page for detailed bio, 380+ articles, marriage book and teaching products – firstname.lastname@example.org. Ref: Pastor Daniel Batchelor, Dupo, IL.
(Holy Ghost 62 yrs., Bible teacher 50+ yrs., Certified Pastoral Counselor 25 yrs., Certified Sexual Addiction Recovery Facilitator, married 47 yrs., mother/MieMie 42 yrs., – Carol’s life experiences provides a unique God-base foundation for her ministry of teaching and counseling nationwide).